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Avoidance Is Not Transcendence

5 May, 2012 By Natalie 9 Comments

When I logged onto Facebook this morning, one of the first things I saw, was this image and quote posted by Effortless Peace:

The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.
~Eckhart Tolle

That’s the key .. total embracing of where we are and going through it not avoiding it or distracting ourselves from it .. even with heightened “spiritual” states of being or “positive thinking”.

I recently heard someone describing how they “transcend” their non-peace. When we talked about it, [Read more...]

Authenticity

17 April, 2012 By Natalie 5 Comments

Our true power rises up from within us, from our essence.

We can’t pray for it to be given to us, bestowed on us by any external force, it is something that we choose in every moment to move towards or away from.

In every moment, in every interaction and in every action we have in our lives, we choose whether to honour the inspiration that comes from within us, that is our authentic self, or we choose to react or respond from another place, whether conditioning that we have learned, from past wounds that inhibit us, or from a place of obligation or what we think others expect of us.

It is very very difficult to live in the moment, free of any direction but the one within us. We constantly adjust our behaviour in subtle or not so subtle ways to be who we think will be more acceptable to the person in front of us, or to the people in our heads by whose standards we silently judge ourselves.

However, the cost of that is that each time we choose to act from anything other than our authentic, whole, unwounded self, to fit in or to have peace or to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, we actually lose spiritual power as we disconnect ourselves ever so slightly from Source and Truth and instead live a ‘peaceful’ lie.

To be totally ourselves and to be accepted or rejected for that is ultimately the most empowering thing we can do for ourselves and all other beings, compared to being accepted for being an inauthentic version of ourselves, which, ultimately, not only disempowers us, but also those who know or love the fake version of ourselves that we project ‘for them’.

Today, when you are able to bring awareness to the moment, stop and feel into it .. what is motivating you? Are you hiding your authentic self for short-term acceptance or approval?

How can you be more authentic in this moment?

And know, that true authenticity, flows from your essence .. within it is held the love and compassion for all other beings.

Have faith that when you express yourself in words or actions from your true essence that all are held in Love and Grace ♥

Filed Under: Spirit Tagged With: authenticity, expectations

Revealing

16 March, 2012 By Natalie 14 Comments

when i was a younger woman
i used to wear my sexuality like a mask
covered in sequins
a persona
to hide behind
and shine your light back into your own eyes [Read more...]

Filed Under: Sex Tagged With: vulnerability

Never Take Someone For Granted

5 March, 2012 By Natalie 4 Comments

I’ve seen a few posts on Facebook recently that say never take someone for granted and they seem sweet enough on the surface, but I can feel the wrongness in them when I read them. Not because there is anything wrong in being mindful with those around you, but because of the fear-based messages that came along with the reminder to “never take someone for granted”.

The first one suggested we not take anyone around us for granted because we may find that we have [Read more...]

Filed Under: Love Tagged With: codependent relationships, freedom in relationships, loving unconditionally, taken for granted

Opinions

19 February, 2012 By Natalie 2 Comments

When people judge others’ Facebook updates as having “incorrect opinions” or “inappropriate opinions” it does make me chuckle.

An opinion is a subjective belief .. if it comes from a person, it couldn’t be more correct or appropriate, to them. And of course, if you disagree with it, that’s your opinion .. just as subjective, just as right for you.

If you want to share yours, go ahead .. but do it without an attachment to an outcome. Perhaps [Read more...]

Filed Under: Spirit Tagged With: judgement, opportunity for personal growth

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”

~ Elizabeth Gilbert

♥ Waking to a quiet crisp morning with the low sun streaming in the windows is blissful! ♥ Add to that a mind full of thoughts on love and relationships and a day to write about them ♥ cuddles with my just woken son and ♥ cinnamon and honey on toast with steaming Earl Grey ♥ and I have a pocketful of early morning #gratitudes! ♥

The Law of Attraction Isn’t About ‘Getting Things’

19 January, 2012 By Natalie 1 Comment

Misconception

From my current perspective, I think there is a misconception of the Law of Attraction – that it is about ‘getting things’.

To me, it is about using the idea of getting the things you think you want to get you into a state of hope, anticipation, excitement, glee, joy, peace.

Feeling Good

The whole ‘spiritual thing’, what most spiritual teachings point towards in one set of words or another, is about getting into a place of feeling great. This is different to the empty pleasure where you use people, things or events to run away from a feeling of meaninglessness, and is instead a deeply peaceful, blissful state of heart-opening good feeling.

When you feel good, you are in a position to not only enjoy life every moment, but you [Read more...]

Filed Under: Spirit Tagged With: co-creation, gratitude, happiness, law of attraction

What Do I Believe In Without A Doubt?

16 January, 2012 By Natalie 2 Comments

I was asked this question last night: “what do I believe in without a doubt?” and as the answer flowed through me, I realized that I would like to share it here, with you.

I believe in the loving presence of angels and guides, without a doubt. Sometimes I forget that they are there, or I disconnect, but the moment I need them, or I remember to invite them in .. their presence is palpable and their feeling of unconditional love and total acceptance of me brings tears to my eyes, and sometimes makes my heart feel like it will burst. Like here.

Actually, I guess that’s not something I believe, it is something I used to believe but then after I experienced it, many, many times, I just knew it and so now it is a knowing.

I believe without a doubt that everything that happens to us is part of a divine co-creation designed to get us from where we are to where our heart knows we belong, to get us from who we have been made to think we are to reveal Who We Truly Are .. while still in this life, to enjoy it and to experience our Divine Light right here in this vessel that we think of as us.

That every person we think has hurt us, betrayed us or who is thwarting our dream in some way, is in fact an ally, helping us in ways we can barely understand, like disguised stepping stones, to the next step on the path intended by our soul – who can see the whole thing and how it turns out from its broader perspective.

If only we could see the whole path, we would trust each twist and turn. We would trust that the lover who breaks our heart open does so so that we have the opportunity to develop forgiveness and experience deeper love. We would trust that the boss who fires us does so so that we have the opportunity to be free to follow our dream. We would trust that the parent who wounds us does so so we have the opportunity to develop compassion or resilience.

We would also trust the paths that [Read more...]

Filed Under: Spirit Tagged With: angels, challenges, co-creation, opportunity for personal growth

“Our job is unconditional love. The job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons.”

~ Byron Katie

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