Freedom In Relationships

Find Freedom IN Your Relationships



Connect With Me FacebookConnect With Me InstagramConnect With Me RSS
  • Home
  • Love
  • Sex
  • Spirit
  • 1-on-1
    • Work 1-On-1 With Me
    • What Others Are Saying
  • Testimonials
  • About
  • Contact
You are here: Home / Spirit / Avoidance Is Not Transcendence

Avoidance Is Not Transcendence

By Natalie 9 Comments

When I logged onto Facebook this morning, one of the first things I saw, was this image and quote posted by Effortless Peace:

The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.
~Eckhart Tolle

 

That’s the key .. total embracing of where we are and going through it not avoiding it or distracting ourselves from it .. even with heightened “spiritual” states of being or “positive thinking”.

I recently heard someone describing how they “transcend” their non-peace. When we talked about it, I found it never went away, constantly reappearing and playing out; they often awoke with it waiting for them because their resistance to it was lowered during their sleep.

This person said they “transcended it” .. by keeping their distance from it, not wanting it to take over their day and waited for the feeling to go away (to be repressed again).  They avoided it instead of embracing it because they were afraid that the non-peace would engulf them if they allowed it the full expression it needed.

The irony is the fear of it perpetuated it while embracing it takes us right to a true peace.

If we are willing to go into our non-peace 100%, be willing to experience the momentary pain of self-growth, we will be gifted with long-term peace. And there are many ways to do that, from talking it through with an objective friend who will not collude with us or judge us, using EFT, receiving shamanic or other healing or working with a mentor in a safely held space.

Sometimes, that peace we gain is just knowing that we will not be engulfed by our non-peace and that it will naturally transmute to peace. Sometimes, we will free ourselves entirely from this specific non-peace for the rest of our time here, simply by allowing it to express fully and be healed.

 

I am so grateful I have discovered this simple truth and that this person blessed me with the reminder of how far I’ve come on my own journey ♥

 

If I can help you on yours, book a session with me. You might also like to see what others are saying about working with me.

 

Namaste ♥

 

Filed Under: Spirit Tagged With: opportunity for personal growth, transcendence

Comments

  1. Anna Searles says

    5 May, 2012 at 10:36 am

    Love this. SO true! Walking into fear or pain whilst knowing in your heart that everything will turn out just fine is so freeing! My week has been like this and I am ending it with renewed faith and passion. I also see that "spirituality" sometimes becomes a BIG tool of avoidance. Where instead of facing things as they are, people (and I have seen this in myself also) try to escape within their minds. There is no real freedom here. Perhaps momentary relaxation until the cycle repeats. I see that this comes from a place of fear. Great writing. <3

    Reply
    • Shaun Hammel says

      5 May, 2012 at 11:01 am

      doesnt matter what your facial expression is when you finally have to walk the plank.

      Reply
  2. D Kate Rogers says

    5 May, 2012 at 3:47 pm

    This week has been about walking deeper into my non-peaceful places and exploring them as wave upon wave of raw pain washes over and out of me. If, as in the past, I'd been afraid and tried to hold off or avoid those feelings I would not have been able to see the shore and find deeper peace and acceptance.
    I'm so glad you're on this journey and sharing it with us – it helps to have fellow travelers showing a path ahead <3.

    Reply
    • Susan May says

      5 May, 2012 at 3:52 pm

      Love this. Definitely rings true to me as I've been thinking about true self-love and forgiveness – really embracing oneself COMPLETELY leads to being able to love, accept and forgive others.

      Reply
    • D Kate Rogers says

      5 May, 2012 at 3:53 pm

      Susan May So much love – so much beautiful LOVE <3

      Reply
    • Natalie Chalmers says

      6 May, 2012 at 11:17 am

      Susan May absolutely! <3

      Reply
    • Natalie Chalmers says

      7 May, 2012 at 9:25 am

      Susan May absolutely! <3

      Reply
  3. Sophie Baulch says

    6 May, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    Brilliant. And once we have gone into that feeling we can change our behaviours and become more authentic too.

    Reply
  4. Sophie Baulch says

    6 May, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    Brilliant. And once we have gone into that feeling we can change our behaviours and become more authentic too.

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badgeShow more posts

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Welcome to the place I keep my ever-evolving thoughts on relationships that are sovereign and somewhat outside of the usual conventions.

I'm a pragmatic spiritual teacher and empath with a deep insight into what motivates people, inspiring men and women to discover their juiciest, most delicious selves and live with authenticity.
[Read More …]

Mentoring via Skype


Are you ready to work one-on-one with me?

Relationships offer us a mirror that we can use to heal, hone ourselves and grow in every area of our lives, through getting us in touch with our essential Divine nature.

Relationships are the absolute best route I know to self realization and ultimate freedom.

Please message me to ask any questions or apply to work with me.

[click here if you need more info ...]

Copyright © 2023 All Rights Reserved · Log in