When people judge others’ Facebook updates as having “incorrect opinions” or “inappropriate opinions” it does make me chuckle.
An opinion is a subjective belief .. if it comes from a person, it couldn’t be more correct or appropriate, to them. And of course, if you disagree with it, that’s your opinion .. just as subjective, just as right for you.
If you want to share yours, go ahead .. but do it without an attachment to an outcome. Perhaps someone will stop and think about what you have shared; it might inspire someone, it might challenge someone, someone may expand their subjective view to take in yours .. or not.
Maybe think about why you feel so indignant or riled by their opinion and see if there’s a place for you to expand your own perspectives as a result.
All is good.
It’s not a personal rejection if your subjective belief doesn’t match another person’s subjective belief.
Diversity is the spice of life.
Well said, Natalie. I think the once removed nature of Facebook gives folks a lot of misguided courage to say things online they would never say outloud. And I’m certain some come off more arrogant or rude than they actually are.
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From my perspective though, if I judge someone to be rude or arrogant, I try and look inward: why do they bother me? Perhaps they reflect ways that I have not embraced parts of me that I don’t like, or maybe they are reflecting some truth in what they say but in a way I am finding hard to take on board?
I think that if more people were able to express their honest opinions out loud and the people they said them to were able to take ownership of their own reactions to those opinions, we’d live in a more, not less, peaceful and honest world.
Don Miguel Ruiz’s Four Agreements spring to mind. While I try to be impeccable with my word, I know not everyone else will (or even can) and so I try and not take what anyone else says personally. And I hope that, in those moments where I forget to be impeccable with my word, that whomever I am speaking to .. on Facebook or face-to-face .. will not take it personally either 🙂